NLP and
Hypnosis Success Formula
Have you ever tried
to get rid of a harmful behavior, only to not succeed? There is
an extensive list of ordinary problem behaviors that people often
try to change or get rid of using self-hypnosis or NLP. Perhaps
the most common are: Overeating and weight loss; stop smoking;
quit chewing tobacco; stop nail biting; increasing self-confidence;
overcoming insomnia and sleeping better; improving memory; and
managing stress.
WHAT THE MIND CAUSES,
THE MIND CAN CURE: The motivation for our behaviors starts in
our thoughts. When you stop and think about it, all of these unconstructive
behaviors are the product of negative thinking. In other words,
you think and motivate yourself into all of these behaviors. Or
at least you think yourself into feeling worried, and that can
be the origin of these behaviors. And because you think and motivate
yourself into these behaviors, you can think and motivate yourself
out of them. But in order to effectively think and motivate yourself
out of them, you will need to know specifically how to go about
doing so.
DESIRE: You are most
likely reading this article for the reason that you want the motivation
to alter some personal behaviors. And that's handy because the
first ingredient in the "Motivation Formula For Your Success"
is that you must want or desire to change. If you have read this
far, at least some part of you wishes a change.
BELIEF IS REQUIRED
FOR MOTIVATION: Before anyone can change an unconstructive behavior,
that person must be motivated to do so. Merely desiring a behavior
to change is not adequate.
Motivation comes from
the things that we believe. If we believe that something very
important to us will get better or "become enhanced"
if we alter our behavior, then we will feel motivated. Conversely,
if we believe that something very important to us will be in jeopardy
if we don't alter our behavior, we will also feel motivated to
change.
Some simple examples
of these motivational beliefs might be:
If I lose weight,
then I'll be able to get a date or find someone to love me.
If I kick my smoking
habit, then I'll be healthier.
If I stop biting my
nails, then my hands will look a lot more attractive.
TECHNOLOGIES THAT
CAN CREATE THE BELIEFS THAT LEAD TO MOTIVATION: NLP - which is
short for Neuro-Linguistic Programming, offers strategies that
are able to immediately produce the element of belief. You can
learn more concerning this by reading the articles "How To
Get Motivated To Exercise Using Hypnosis And NLP" and "Motivation
Theory - How To Quit Smoking Using NLP And Hypnosis For Motivation."
These articles are both available in my free hypnosis research
library.
DECISION: The dictionary
definition of the word "Decision" is making up one's
mind / a verdict or judgment. When you accept as true an idea
that provides you with a powerful feeling of motivation to change
your behavior, you will feel a powerful urge to make a decision
to eliminate a negative behavior. Decision is the key that unlocks
the door to taking action.
ACTION: The dictionary
definition of the word "Action" is an act or deed /
to do or perform. Taking action means that rather than just daydreaming
about making personal changes, you will actually take action and
create your desired changes.
SELF-TALK: One of
the reasons that most people are unsuccessful at eliminating a
negative behavior is because of the way that they talk to themselves.
Self-talk is vital because very often it is part of what caused
the negative behavior in the first place.
I'd like you to consider
this for a moment: Let us say that you want to kick a cigarette
habit. The first thing that you are likely to say or think to
yourself is: "I'm not going to smoke anymore."
It is common for people
to tell themselves what they aren't going to do. Unfortunately,
when we tell ourselves what we are not going to do, we are actually
programming ourselves to do it!
SELF-TALK EXERCISE:
Say the following to yourself: I can't see blue. I can't see polka
dots . . . . .
I'll bet your mind
showed you the color blue, and then it showed you polka dots.
That's because when we tell ourselves what we do not want to do,
or what we won't do, in order to make sense of it our mind must
make an image of us doing whatever it is that we would like to
stop doing. And when we imagine ourselves participating in a behavior,
our mind compels us to produce that behavior.
SUMMARY: In order
to modify a negative behavior, we must want or DESIRE to get rid
of it. BELIEF is the element that creates MOTIVATION. MOTIVATION
is the drive that pushes us to DECISION. DECISION is the key to
ACTION. NLP is a method that we can use to facilitate beliefs,
motivation, decisions, and actions.
When we tell ourselves
what we are not going to do, we make a mental image of ourselves
engaging in the behavior that we want to modify. And that mental
image gives us an urge to create the unwanted behavior. So if
we want to get rid of a negative behavior, instead of telling
ourselves what we won't do, we must always tell ourselves what
we will do.
To break
the smoking addiction say: "I can live without them."
To erase cravings
for food that will make you fat or to stop
chewing smokeless chewing tobacco say: "I can live without
it."
To reduce stress say:
"I'm relaxed and calm, both mentally and physically."
To fall
asleep quickly and overcome insomnia say: "I fall asleep
quickly, and sleep soundly throughout the night."
Alan B. Densky, CH
is an NLP Practitioner and certified hypnotherapist. He operates
the Neuro-VISION
Video Hypnosis website and the Self-hypnosis
Video Blog. He offers hypnosis
& NLP CDs for motivation. Visit his website for his free
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